Relationships | Healthy Relationships

The Truth About Finding Your True Love And How You Can Fulfill Your Dream Of Living Happily Ever After

2010-02-20T09:54:00.000-08:00

“All we need is love.” Myth or not? Since love does seem to
be able to overcome anything and everything, at least on
television and at the movies, this seems like a reality.
However, truth is, making relationships work takes skill and
hard work, regardless of the “love” factor. This is a myth
here.

Let’s take a peak at some of the more common concepts above
“love” relationships and see if they are myths or based upon
reality.

If you are thinking of going into a relationship, or if you
find yourself falling in love, and ready to date, keep this
in mind: relationship is way, way beyond just love and
attraction.

Just like in fairy tales, once true love is found, people
live happily ever after. Truth or myth? Granted couples can
look into each other’s eyes and have those warm fuzzy
feelings. However, truth is, all couples will have their ups
and downs. “Happily ever after” seems to imply a perfect,
problem-less relationship when in reality, those don’t
exist.

If you are in a problem-less relationship (which doesn't
exist anyway), you'll get bored one day. And one of the
couples will want to run away!

So, is it possible to create and maintain a long lasting and
blissful relationship, or can one even dream of creating the
relationship of his or her dreams?

You bet!

The first step is to arm yourself with the genuine knowledge
and instructions on how to create your soul-based
relationship. Trust me, it is worth your time and money if
you can ever find a comprehensive course of instructions and
learn more about the truth of relationship, and especially
how you can draw in your soul mate!

It has to be “love at first sight” in order to work long-
term. Myth or truth? While this can be true for some, it
certainly doesn’t have to be for all couples in long-term
relationships. Many people grow together over time.

Since practically anyone can learn the nuts and bolts of
relationship building, focusing on some basic techniques
that can be learned is a must. The main ones, in no
particular order, are:

- Understand your-self.
Understand yourself. What is your personality. You may be
surprised. Some people live for a long time and never come
to understand or even realize why they are the way they are!
And why is this important? It determines how you look at the
world, how you will interpret the events occurring in your
life, and WHO YOU ARE will help your partner determine how
to react to YOU!

- Rapport: Develop rapport with others well.
Now let’s take a quick peak at the basics of developing
rapport with others. In a nutshell, what it takes is to ask
questions, have a positive, open attitude, encour
age an open exchange of communications (both verbal and
unspoken), listen to verbal and unspoken communications and
share positive feedback.

- Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues and conflicts
without too much friction
How do you handle conflicts? If you can put your ego aside
pretty much and try to keep friction to a minimum, your
relationships should move along fairly smoothly. Where you
feel disagreement, if you can “agree” to disagree on certain
things with the other party involved, that will help, too.
In short, conflict resolution means to pretty much deal with
others as you would want them to deal with you.

Once true love is found, people live happily ever after.
Truth or myth? Well, it will definitely not be a perfect,
problem-less journey. However, you definitely can live
happily ever after with the love of your life, if only you
will arm yourself with the right relationship skills and
learn relationship mastery whole heartedly.

Trust me, this is within your power. It is your destiny to
draw in your highest and best mate, if you have decided to.

What Do Men and Women Want in a Love Relationship?

2010-01-28T10:28:00.000-08:00

When recent polls asked what men and women would most like in their relationship, the resounding response was happiness. Is your love relationship a happy one? If it is not, then what exactly is a happy love relationship? This article tries to answer this pressing question. It will teach you how you can be guaranteed that your love relationship will bring you happiness.

As relationship advisor, I often hear men and women say they are happy with their love life. Behind closed doors, however, the same people who say they are happy with their love life admit that they are not. For many years, I have heard people say that although they are unhappy with what they have, it is better than being alone. Women, in particular, say it is too difficult to find a good man.

Certain steps are required to find the love relationship that will make you and your partner happy. Here are five simple steps to help you find the happiness that eludes you.

Step 1. Acknowledge that you have not been successful at relationship. This is key, because admitting that something is not right automatically programs your brain to bring about change. Denial, on the other hand, will keep you making excuses.

Step 2. When you have acknowledged the truth, you are now ready to finally succeed. Begin by finding love in the right places. What I mean here is a change of habit. I have put some of my clients through this process, and the result has been very rewarding for them. It also brought me much joy to know that somehow I have helped them find happiness.

Step 3. Seek your love relationship with the right person, your twin soul or what I call your soulmate. Here is why. Twin souls are two people who were created for and with each other in mind. They are parts of each other. This is why people may feel alone even if they are in a love relationship if it is not with their soulmates.

Your soulmate was created by a higher power, and it is only this higher power who can lead you to the person. Acknowledging this is a very important part of recognizing your soulmate. Because if a higher power created a twin soul for you the same higher power has created a way to bring the two of you together. This is so very important, I cannot stress it enough. I have gone through the process myself and know this from personal experience. So you have met a love interest, are dating or even in a relationship. You must do your part to recognize if you are each others soulmate or not. After that the next step, step 4 is the most important part of the process if you want assurance that you and your love interest were created for each other and that the relationship will work.

Step 4. Wait for a confirmation. When two people meet, the only way they can know they are soulmates is by receiving a confirmation. Confirmation comes in a variety of ways. Because soulmates were created for each other by a higher power, the same higher power will give you a confirmation. To make this point clear, I will ask you to see yourself as a mother. You have several cups in your cupboard. You ask your child to bring you a tea cup. Your child goes into the cupboard, where there are many different kinds of cups. The child takes one cup and brings it to you. You, the mother, will know whether your child has brought you the right cup. You then confirm the child's success by letting the child know the cup is the right or wrong one. Likewise, your higher power will let you know if your man or woman is the right one.

Step 5. Finally, you must do your part. A higher power created a soulmate for you and will lead you to your soulmate and give you a confirmation when the two of you meet. The rest is up to you. It is important to understand that it is up to you to accept or not accept your soulmate. It is up to you to date, to meet people, and so on. And no matter what you may think, there are simple and effective ways of meeting the right person.

Let me draw upon the story of Adam and Eve to make a final point. When they were created for each other, after partaking of the fruit of the tree, Adam was displeased with Eve. Adam had the option of not accepting Eve as his twin soul, but Eve told Adam that, if he did not accept her, he would be alone. The secret here is to understand the word alone. Without your soulmate's love, you will feel alone regardless of how handsome, beautiful, rich or famous you or your lover is. Understanding this is very important, because it will put you in the right frame of mind to go about your love life in the right way. Good luck to you

Contributor: Ernest Quansah

Getting Out Of A Bad Relationship

2010-01-23T21:37:00.000-08:00

So, you thought you have finally found the ONE.

Someone who has an established career, with stable financial status, responsible, good looking, intelligent, and good-humored person has finally come into your life.

But, just when you thought you've finally met the ideal man or woman of your dreams, everything seems to be wrong and complicated. Suddenly, he has lost his job, she went bankrupt, he became careless, and she became paranoid about everything. You try to help your partner in dealing with the issues but it always turns out that he or she's too good to ask help from anybody-even you.

Still, despite everything you still do almost everything to help your beau without you realizing that he or she slowly drags you into the pit of depression and helplessness they're in. When you feel that you are no longer healthy, happy, and growing in the relationship, that's the time when you are trapped in bad relationship.

Being stuck and stranded

It is always hard to end any kind of relationship-especially if it's a romantic relationship. But, no matter how hard to end something that you thought is precious, you should know when to end a relationship especially if you are well-aware that its not doing you any good.

The signs of the times would probably tell you if you are already being stuck in a bad relationship. Experts agree that the relationship is already bad when the couple is going through unusual periods of disagreement and bitterness that can be inevitable in some relationships. You will also know if you are already in the pit of a bad relationship when it involves incessant aggravation and everything-even your partner-seems to be out of your reach.

The main determinant if you are in a bad relationship is the behavior of your partner. You can tell that you are being caught up in a bad relationship if your partner is beyond your reach of communication and comprehension, he or she doesn't want to make any commitment, doesn't profess his or her feelings even if there is a sort of commitment or plainly incapable of loving someone else besides him or herself.

Studies also show that in any bad relationship, the couple is often on dissimilar wavelengths that there is almost no common ground and no connection or communication that result to irritation and disappointment.

Since bad relationships usually stem from chronic reciprocation of what one or both partners need, the relationship itself can even damage the self-esteem of the persons involved. Bad relationships are also destructive for persons especially those who have invested so much in their careers for their personal lives since these serve as a perfect breeding ground for rage, bitterness, self-doubt, melancholy, and distress.

Aside from emotional distress, staying in a bad relationship can be hazardous to someones health. The most common hazard of bad relationship is the physical harm caused by an abusive partner. In less severe cases, being in a bad relationship can cause tensions and various chemical changes often triggered by so much stress.

Being in a bad relationship reflects so much on the person's overall health and well-being because it can drain energy, thus, lowering the body's resistance to illness. The common health hazards of being in a bad relationship include severe headaches, back pains, and stomachaches caused by anger and frustration; insomnia and melancholy caused by emotional distress; and weight problems caused by irregular behavioral patterns and depression.

If couples continue to be in a relationship that is no longer healthy, they will try to find a way to escape from being stuck inside by being alcoholic or drug dependent. Worse, being stuck in an unhealthy relationship can eventually lead to recurrent suicide attempts.

Breaking free

What most people inside relationships do not realize is that the more they try to work things out, things get more and more complicated. This is because both people in the relationship try so hard to pass through the stage without realizing that they are detaching themselves with their respective partners. As a result of this detachment is misunderstanding, incompatibility, and soon enough, falling out of love.

If you are already in a bad relationship that robs you off your freedom to be yourself, the freedom to love other person, and the freedom to get out of an unhealthy and destructive relationship, here are some of the things you can do to recover.

1. Consider your wellness as the first priority in life whether you are in or out of a romantic relationship.

2. Try to be "selfish" at times by focusing on your own needs above all else.

3. Be strong enough to deal with your own problems.

4. Have a positive outlook in life and cultivate whatever positive values you acquired within the relationship.

5. Nurture you spiritual side and try to look for ways or activities that can bring you inner peace.

6. If the relationship was quite traumatic, think of getting professional help or find a support group where you can share your experiences and the lessons you have learned.

7. Don't be afraid to fall in love but try to be more cautious next time so you won't be stuck in a bad relationship.

Contributor:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com

Is Your Relationship Healthy?

2010-01-03T13:56:00.000-08:00

....and How to Instantly Improve it if NOT!

I'm about to let you know the real reasons why men in relationships so often act this way... and what to do about it.

I'm also about to explain why so many women end up in unfulfilling relationships with men who "TAKE TAKE TAKE", and why these women so often end up getting little back for all their efforts.

First off, tell me if this sounds at all familiar...

You meet a great guy and you start dating.

The "chemistry" is simply AMAZING and you can't believe how into connecting and sharing he is...even on that emotional level where other men often fall flat.

You spend time together and keep growing closer, and you start to believe that maybe you've finally found that amazing friend, companion and lover all in one.

He's so open and caring... listens and pays attention to you and what's going with you in a way that few men you've met can.

Your connection is unbelievable.

You both know you can count on each other in ways that feel like you're closer than you have been with a man in a long, long time.

Since you're both so close, he starts to depend on you for a few things in his life... and you're happy to help him since you really care about him and are a generous and loving person.

But, as time goes on, something starts to slowly "shift."

It starts with small things...

He starts acting a little differently, and stops doing a lot of the things he used to do that made you admire and respect him.

Somehow, he seems less confident, present, and "connected" with you.

And then you notice...

There's something different about how he depends on you, and it sets off your "radar."

You start to wonder if how he is with you is entirely healthy.

You start to feel "drained" with him and with the relationship more and more... but you know that a relationship is about give and take, so you keep giving and have faith that things are going fine.

More time passes and you start to notice something else...

You see that he isn't becoming more appreciative of all the things you're doing for
him and your relationship.

In fact, it feels like he's starting to take more and more of it for granted.

Actually, he seems LESS APPRECIATIVE of you and your relationship in general.

He starts asking and depending on you even more, without any real thanks or reciprocation.

The more he does this, the more you sense that there's a kind of needy "childishness" inside him that's becoming clearer.

You want to be there for him and be a great partner... but you also want that fun, strong, playful, loving, confident man back who was there before things changed.

With all this going on, you're not exactly sure of what to do about it or what's going on for him that's making him act this way.

He doesn't seem to pay you the same attention, give the same affection and support that you give him, and it's starting to feel unfair and bother you.

Your relationship is starting to feel like it's all about making sure "he's" happy.

Which of course doesn't leave much room for what's going on for YOU.

You know things can't go on this way if your relationship is going to work and be something worthwhile and "real."

He's got to see what's going on and stop being so self-involved.

You know that he's had some challenges in his own life and maybe he just doesn't see what's going on. So, you decide to not make a big deal out of it. But, you know that something needs to change... soon.

So, you finally decide to talk to him about what's going on.

You go over in your head again and again what you're going to say to him and what's been going on for the last several months.

You're sure that he'll see what's been happening and all the things you've been doing for him and the relationship, and he'll give you some understanding.

But when you talk to him, it doesn't work out this way... AT ALL.

Instead of hearing you and your intentions to get things back to a better place between you two, he just becomes frustrated, irritated and
DEFENSIVE with you.

Instead of hearing you, he makes you feel like you're "nagging" him and creating "drama."

He even acts like you're the one being ridiculous and withdraws from you.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

This situation where you know you're giving and getting less than nothing back STINKS.

And unfortunately, it's a common experience lots of women have in relationships with men.

Now, there are about 50 things I could tell you about how men are at fault and create these problems for themselves and for you in your relationship.

But the reality is that you've already spent hours thinking about this before and have a lot of your own ideas about it.

That is partially why I'm NOT going to talk about what's going on with men here and what to do about it.

At least not yet.

Right now we're going to talk about YOU.

Why?

Because thinking about YOURSELF is the first step towards real GROWTH and AWARENESS in EVERY RELATIONSHIP you have in your life.

You could spend days, weeks, months or years worrying about a man, what he thinks, and why he does the things he does.

But if you want to be smart...

And you want relationships to start "working" for you, instead of seeming like a never ending source of frustration and disappointment trying to get a man to make the relationship work...

Then you'll make sure you have things handled for yourself first.

And that way you'll have the CERTAINTY that only comes from understanding what's happening in the relationship around you... and what YOU need to do in each situation that comes up with a man.

THE ONE QUESTION THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
WITH A MAN INSTANTLY

If you're at the most basic levels of what I call "emotional maturity" in your life, then you've started to recognize something very important and significant about yourself...

You've recognized that you have a few PATTERNS coming up in your relationships.

Of course, some of these patterns are positive traits that bring benefits, center around your personal preferences, and involve things you bring into your life CONSCIOUSLY and for good reason.

But the reality is these aren't the only kind of patterns you have in your life.

You also have a special group of "negative patterns."

Patterns that you save just for MEN.

So, let me ask you a very simple question.

It's a question that could very well change the course of your love life IMMEDIATELY once you answer it.

Here's the question - Do you know your "negative patterns" in relationships with men?

You might have a few of these that you already know about that you can rattle off in your head right now without really thinking about it.

THESE ARE NOT THE PATTERNS I'M LOOKING FOR TO IMPROVE YOUR LOVE LIFE.

You already know about these patterns and this knowledge still doesn't seem to be helping you if you're running into the same issues and situations again and again.

Which is why it's obvious that "what" you already know isn't going to help you learn and grow past these situations with men for good.

You need to expand your PERSPECTIVE.

That's why I'm looking for the patterns that you DON'T see right now, and that you aren't CONSCIOUS of.

Here's where we're going to take ACTION...

Right now, I want you to give yourself the time and space for the next 5 minutes to think about your own patterns in your past or present relationships with men.

And, I want you to put everything else aside just for a few short moments while you focus on YOURSELF.

By the way, if you don't have time to do this now, then you probably never will.

And I know it's a simple question, but the AWARENESS and GROWTH that can come from your answer is what's going to change your love life immediately.

So now that you've made the time, I want you to think about the following -

I want you to come up with at least TWO of your own negative relationship patterns with men.

And I don't just mean patterns that are really about men... such as "I always pick men who are clueless about loving relationships."

This is focusing on HIM, not YOU.

I mean something like "I meet men and quickly spend all my time with them. But soon I see that I've "lost myself" and I am not able to have a healthy balance. And inevitably, we end up breaking up and I resent all the time I spent on the relationship and him, instead of spending more time on myself."

That's one common example lots of women have experienced.

Now, it's your turn.

I want you to come up with 2 other patterns that have to do with YOU and things that come from YOUR THINKING or BEHAVIOR.

I'm going to give you a few minutes to do it now. I'm going to give you another minute to make sure you have your two patterns.

OK. So now you have two clear patterns of your own in your head.

Take out a pen and a piece of paper right now and write down the patterns you identified.

Do it now, I'll wait.

Good.

I want you to keep this piece of paper somewhere you can look at it again in a few days or weeks.

It will be important to look at what you wrote down again at least once in the next few days.

DEVELOPING CONSCIOUSNESS TO MOVE PAST YOUR NEGATIVE AND SELF-DEFEATING "PATTERNS" IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN

Now that you've got your two negative patterns, here's where things are going to start coming together for you...

First, I need you to get away from a dangerous kind of thinking that ALL WOMEN engage in when it comes to men, dating and relationships.

I call it "All-or-Nothing Thinking."

Do you know any women who talk about how their relationship is hopeless and a complete failure...

And then a few hours or days later they have shifted 180 degrees to where EVERYTHING is great?

What does this say about the woman who thinks and feels this way?

What kind of relationship and communication "skills" does a woman like this have?

And how do you think a man experiences this kind of thinking and behavior... and what does it say to him about a woman?

Of course, this is an extreme example of "All-or-Nothing Thinking."

Unfortunately, the more common "All-or-Nothing Thinking" is subtle and difficult to recognize.

Especially when YOU are the one having the thoughts.

So, let me ask you...

When you look at your pattern, is there a negative trait or habit of yours that stands out as the one that gets you into trouble the most?

I'm certain there is. I want you to identify at least one of your greatest WEAKNESSES that shows up in your life through your negative patterns.

I'll give you a minute to write this down next to the pattern it's associated with.

Now there's something I want you to think about...

It makes sense to cut this negative trait or habit that's associated with your pattern out of your relationship and behavior with a man... right?

It's caused a lot of these problems... right?

If you cut these traits or qualities out of the way you are in a relationship with a man, then things will be better... right?

WRONG... What if the problems that come up in your negative pattern are caused by these traits?

And what if the traits in your negative pattern didn't represent just your personal WEAKNESSES?

What if they ALSO represented your personal STRENGTHS at the same time?

If you were thinking that you should get rid of the trait or quality entirely that's involved in your negative pattern so that things will work better in the future... then you're going to that place of "All-or-Nothing Thinking."

Talk about throwing out the baby with the bath water.

Over the years I've recognized that there's a fascinating mistake TONS of people make in relationships, in business, and in every aspect of life...

When something isn't working and they want to fix a problem, they don't look at the entire "system" around them.

Instead, they focus their attention on the "symptoms" they see, in isolation.

Some people complain about "Western Medicine" having the same shortcoming. That it only addresses symptoms, instead of taking a "holistic" approach to how everything works together.

Anyway... when a person is trying to fix a problem in a relationship, by not seeing the entire "system" going on around them, they can't see how all the elements are inter-connected.

So, when they go to make a change, they think they can change what's related to the symptoms and everything will work better.

This is like thinking blowing your nose will cure a cold.

What's worse, oftentimes the things that people change not only don't work to fix the problem...

But ends up making things WORSE by affecting all the other related and inter connected things that WERE WORKING.

Talk about COUNTERPRODUCTIVE... Don't start solving problems and changing your relationship when you can only see the "symptoms." There's a better way.

You need to start looking at the whole "system" of how you and a man connect and communicate in your relationship.

You need to develop your own "holistic" approach.

Then you'll have the PERSPECTIVE to make choices and take action that will bring more connection and understanding into your life.

So how can you start to see your own relationship with a man as the "system" that it is? And how can you avoid the dead end strategy of trying to cover up the "symptoms"? Here's a step towards this that you can take RIGHT NOW...

I'm going to get you out of the habit of using your destructive "All-or-Nothing Thinking."

I want you to look at your trait or traits again that were your own WEAKNESSES in your negative relationship pattern.

Now I want you to try something that might seem strange at first.

I want you to identify at least one way in which your trait or habit in your negative relationship pattern is also a STRENGTH.

I'll give you a minute to see how the very trait that you just identified as a WEAKNESS is also a STRENGTH.

I want you to write the STRENGTH down right now next to the pattern it's associated with.

Go ahead. I'll give you a few minutes.

......................................

OK, good.

There's a lot of power and AWARENESS created in what you just did when you think about it - IF you stay aware of this when you're interacting with a man in your relationship.

When you see how your WEAKNESSES, that you've been giving yourself a hard time about and trying to figure out how to get rid of, are also part of your STRENGTHS... things you never could have understood will start to become clear to you.

Challenges, issues, attitudes and hurtful things that a man brings to you that relate to your patterns, and these traits will start to look differently to you...

And you'll start to have an amazing sense of CLARITY about what's the best thing to do for you, for him, and for your relationship.

A "STRANGE TRUTH" ABOUT THE PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS YOU ATTRACT IN LIFE AND LOVE

You've got some basic tools to work with now to understand more about what's going on with you and your relationship.

But it really only starts here.

Are you CLEAR on how these 2 patterns come up in your life?

Do you know how to avoid "All or Nothing Thinking" the next time it comes up and tries to create DISTANCE between you and a man?

Do you know where these thoughts come from and what to do to stay conscious and overcome the negative aspects of your other destructive relationship patterns?

Do you know how to guide a man to start doing these same things to improve HIMSELF and the way he is in your relationship, so you don't have to try and convince him of what's going on that he can't see or isn't paying attention to?

Most women who aren't in a happy, healthy, loving, lasting relationship don't have this knowledge and the ability to stay connected with a man that comes along with it.

The strange truth is, patterns aren't just coincidences in your life.

They keep repeating in your life for a reason.

What are the lessons that keep coming up for you in your love life that you can't learn from where you are today, but keep coming at you?

The reality is that you have a choice...

You can keep repeating these patterns, and experiencing the pain and frustration that comes with them again and again...

This is the "easy" choice that doesn't ask or require you to learn and grow at all.

OR...

You can create a "shift" in your life.

You can choose to have more AWARENESS and more GROWTH... which will of course bring new ways of seeing things, and best of all, NEW RESULTS in your relationship.

The choice is yours right now.

If you've ever wondered why you get "stuck" with a man once you get to a certain level of connection and intimacy... and then things seem to go backwards and he withdraws... then this program is going to change your life and your relationship.

One of the most critical things that's going on inside a relationship when a "casual", or even a committed relationship, starts to go wrong, even though there's no lack of love or caring between the man and woman, is FEAR.

And I don't just mean YOUR FEARS... I'm talking about a HIS FEARS, too.

There's a reason why most men pull away and sabotage perfectly good, loving relationships with women.

And there's a reason why YOUR FEARS are only making these things with a man WORSE.

There are clear steps that you can take to change your love life and relationship, no matter where you are right now with a man.

Shifting your PERSPECTIVE and becoming MORE CONSCIOUS is your first step... some of which we've touched on here.

You can stop the unnecessary PATTERNS.

You can come to terms with, and understand, the FEARS.

And you can find out, once and for all, why it is that men so often put up RESISTANCE to becoming more connected, closer and MORE COMMITTED with YOU on a physical and emotional level.

Don't let go of this opportunity to have LASTING CHANGE and IMPROVEMENT to the quality of your love life and all your relationships.

Go to WOMEN INSPIRED and get the rest of the story.
What could come from your learning, growth, and new "relationship skills" and wisdom could be PRICELESS and last a lifetime.

Love and Success ...

Repair Relationships With a Love Letter

2009-11-19T19:45:00.000-08:00

In a healthy, thriving relationship, there are bound to be occasional disagreements and squabbles. Most often it is over something that on hindsight seems ridiculous and insignificant. However, sometimes the damage has been done. Harsh words were exchanged while emotions were riding high and feelings are already hurt. When time passes, often one of the couple realizes that the “fight” was over something so ridiculous, and that it could have been handled in a more amiable and compromising manner. When both parties are willing to compromise after a fight, relationship repair can begin. But how does one initiate the compromise? This is where a love letter can come in to help.

We humans have a built-in desire to avoid unpleasant situations. But can a ‘fight’ situation have been avoided? During the “fight” probably not. But after some time, when the situation cools down and rationale take over, this is the time when solutions can be found. One thing we must realize, is that we are all humans and emotions do rule the day sometimes and because of that, situations turn ugly and the best of relationships do experience their occasional kinks. As long as there is no physical abuse or any irreversible conditions, most situations can be repaired.

It takes a couple of things to happen if there is going to be any relationship repair.

1. The couple must realize that there is more at stake than winning the argument. There is something bigger and more precious that needs to be preserved and treasured. Both stand to lose a lot more if no party wishes to relent or compromise in the argument. In worst case scenario, the couple will no longer be a couple. Life will be without each other’s presence. If there is strong love and respect for each other, this aspect of “more to lose” alone will help to iron out all the disagreements and solutions can be found.

2. There must be willingness to compromise from both parties. In most circumstances in an argument, there is no right and wrong side, only differing views. The argument comes up is because each party does not want to understand the other person’s point of view. Both must acknowledge this difference of views and a compromise sought.

When these aspects are established, the best way to reconcile is to spend some time away from each other and look at the argument rationally. Start to develop a love letter to repair the relationship. Write down your thoughts without the influence of negative emotions, then explain your point of view and end with a love note for the other person expressing how important and significant the other person is in your life. This will open up avenues for reconciliation and renewed bonding. This love letter will help to present the different views without the shouting match and also express the ‘love’ for each other.

It is vital to have the ‘love’ part in the love letter which stresses on the “more to lose” point above. There are many benefits in a written love letter. The love letter of this nature gives you the opportunity to control, retract, and re-word your thoughts without any damage. The time spent writing the love letter will calm negative emotions as well as put things into real perspective. So the next time you have strong emotions, try writing it in a letter and see if you still have the same feeling after some time. Writing the love letter in this manner will help to put things into perspective and helps to determine what is important to each other. So the next time, you feel an argument brewing, take some time off and write a love letter instead. There is another interesting benefit with such a love letter that it can be saved and kept into a scrapbook for memories.

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Tips On How To Fix A Relationship

2009-10-16T19:41:00.000-07:00

Having disputes and disagreements with your partner is normal in a relationship. There's no such thing as having a peaceful and smooth relationship. How you deal with these differences determines how long your relationship will last. If you let these troubles get between you and your partner, you'll surely lose trust in each other and end up breaking the relationship. How do you save a failing relationship?

Know what really happened and what was the real reason for your disagreements. By knowing the root of it all, you can devise a plan on how to solve your relationship problems. You won't be able to come up with a good solution unless you know first the real reason.

Accept your mistakes. If you are humble enough to know that you've been wrong, it will also make him realize his mistakes. Be responsible enough to accept the consequences of your actions.

Remember your happy days. It would probably not make you happy but it would remind you of better days when you were still hopelessly in love with each other.this will give you the confidence to work things out with your partner and start anew.

Talk things out. Ask him whether he's willing to patch up your relationship because no matter how hard you try to fix things up, it would be pointless if he's not willing to cooperate with you. Let him know that you want to have him in your life forever and ask him what he thinks.

Ask yourself whether your relationship is worth saving or dumping. If all he brought into your life is misery and pain, might as well jump off the cliff. Saving this kind of relationship would only mean tying back the severed noose on your neck. But if your relationship has brought your life laughter and meaning, then think twice before quitting. It's hard to just throw precious things like these away.

Be willing to change. Trash your old habits and opinions that caused your disagreements. If you keep on going with what you are right now, it won't make a difference even if you make up. You have to learn how to dis's the bad traits and practice good habits.

Listen to his side. Learn how to communicate with each other. If you're the only one blabbering about getting back together, only you will be happy. Get his opinions on things and study how you can work things out with both of you satisfied in the end.

Forgive and forget. Don't harbor negative feelings for each other. If you're going to forgive, forgive with all your heart. You won't be able to move on if you say you've forgiven him but still hates him for what he did.

If you want to bring back the sparkle in your relationship, you should start anew. Forget everything that happened, forgive everything that has to be forgiven. And most importantly, love your partner like the first time you met each other.

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Why Do Some Men Get Scared in Relationships?

2009-10-10T21:14:00.000-07:00

Many times man gets scared even though they want to have a relationship. Sometimes they do not even understand why they are scared and cannot do anything about.

Women are always wondering why women get scared in relationships because the women usually want commitment that may be hard for the man. So why do men get scared in relationships?

There are a couple of different reasons why men may be scared in relationships. It will all depend on the individual. Everyone will have their own reason why they are scared. Here are some of the reasons.

One: Relationships mean responsibility for the woman and the man. Some men don't want any responsibilities.

Two: Men don't like to be vulnerable and relationships will make them vulnerable.

Three: Some men are afraid of commitment.

Four: Some men believe that they have to give up their needs and wants just to have a relationship, which of course is not true.

These are not the only reasons why men get scared in relationships. They are some of the more common reasons though. So they can do something about it men need to understand why they get scared.

No one wants to grow old alone and men will want to have a relationship someday. So they can have a healthy partnership someday they have to be able to fix the reason why.

Women who are involved with a man that is scared in relationships need to make sure that you try and help them. You may be walking away from the man you were supposed to be with for the rest of your life so you don't want to just walk away.

It is always a good idea to take the time to get to know the man before you do anything. If they do have a problem with relationships and you want to be with them than you need to take the time to find out if you can help them or if it is a lost cause and you should move on.

No matter what you decide to do if you are involved with a man who gets scared in relationships, you want to make sure you know what the reasons are that men get scared. That way you will know what could be the problem so you don't waste your time with a man that doesn't want to be with you.

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Getting Back To The Basics Of Love And Romance

2009-09-10T20:12:00.000-07:00

Almost every love story has the potential to begin as if it were a fairy tale. "Once upon a time, two people fell passionately in love and their love was unlike any others before theirs." Relationship beginnings are wonderful and they can experience a ‘rebirth' with a wedding, honeymoon and the exciting first year of marriage. Once a couple begins to grow and their lives change with jobs, children, social activities and other commitments, the love and romance becomes more difficult to attend to. Sometimes love and romance seem to be lost altogether. This destiny is not unavoidable if you want to rekindle the passion or simply bring it to a new level by becoming a hopeless romantic.

When you want to ignite the passion in your relationship but you aren't sure what you need to do, the best place to begin is at the beginning. Think about the things that you used to do for your partner at the beginning of your relationship. If you don't remember or never tried to be a true romantic, don't worry. It's not difficult and once you begin you will find that you will get your own new ideas after a while.

Most new relationships or new beginnings rely on the ‘little' things to show love and affection. Be sure to remember special ‘couple' days like Valentine's Day, Anniversaries and even the date you met if possible. Be sure to send a meaningful gift or just a dozen roses and a box of chocolates to celebrate your feelings for your partner. Women can do exactly the same thing for men here. Not many men can resist candy!

You may not consider yourself to be a writer, but writing your partner a long love letter with your thoughts about how you feel for the other person is one of the most touching ways to spark romance. If you aren't comfortable writing a letter, consider making lists about what you love the most about your partner. Lists can be about the things they do that makes you laugh, what they do for you that you appreciate, how they make you feel inside, how beautiful or handsome they are and other very personal but attentive details.

Call your partner and talk softly and loving. If he or she isn't able to answer the phone, leave loving messages on their voice mail or answering machine. Talk dirty when you know that he or she can't return the same conversation on the other end.

Sometimes couples feel more comfortable trying to bring romance into their relationship by bestowing gifts on their partner. While classics like flowers, candy and perfume or cologne are almost always successful gifts, try ‘giving' something different. Make plans to go see every romantic movie that comes to the theater during the year. Bring home a bottle of champagne to celebrate even the tiniest accomplishment he or she has had. Randomly send romantic and/or humorous greeting cards to his or her workplace or hide them under the bed pillows at home.

These suggestions are simply ideas to get you started in your effort to bring romance and love to a new level in your marriage. You may have your own ideas and those are most likely better than anything offered here. Once you open the door to romance in your marriage and begin to build a foundation for future romance, you are ready to move to even more creative levels of romance.

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Good Romance Advice for Your Relationship

2009-07-18T19:23:00.000-07:00

Looking for romance advice is perfectly alright. This is because you want to know more on how to spice up your life. Romance advice will enable you explore some of the things that are necessary when you wish to show romance from the heart. You do not have to be in a relationship to look for this kind of advice. Wisdom stored never goes to waste. Empower yourself with romance information so that you do not plunge into pitfalls like others who were ignorant on this issue. You can get good romance tips from professionals and other people. The easiest way to find the advice is to go online. However, if you feel that you need that personal contact, you will be best suited to visit a relevant counselor. It is really amazing how things look clearer when you have refreshed your mind through a different view. Online advice will come with its own set of advantages. First, you do not have to pay anything for it. The other advantage is that you get to save a lot of time and, you know what they say, time is money. When you go online, you can choose to take the advice or leave it, in other words, you will be faced with a variety of tips and, you get to choose the best advice.

The following is romance advice that you will find especially helpful as you relate with your spouse or partner. First, it is vital to deal with your mindset. You need to understand the essence of romance before you undertake it. Romance is not just something you do, it is something that should be in you. Romance is inspired by love and this is to say, without love, there can be no room for true romance. Love is that deep commitment to be with somebody. If you have found the right person to be with in your life, romance will come naturally for you. The advice behind the above point is that, romance comes naturally where there is love. Romance advice will play the role of improving a love relationship. For this reason, it is paramount that you do not ignore it. Romance should be undertaken by both partners for a healthy relationship. This is to say that, waiting for your spouse to please you all the time will not be fair. As a result, you will not have that strong foundation based on equality and mutual friendship.

Romance advice is crucial when you are going through a rough time with your spouse. Just like love, romance will cover a lot of flaws and transform feuding families into loving families. Do not sweep your problems under the rug or burry your head in the sand. You need to confront your problems and do it lovingly. In other words, show your partner that you are committed to making things better. Be proactive when it comes to showing love and, you will not be disappointed when it comes to showing love and romance. Romance needs to become a lifestyle for you if you want to stand the test of time. Strong unions are not just strong; they need proper work and maintenance just like any other thing. Romance does an excellent job when it comes to maintaining relationships.

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What to Do When There is No Romance in Relationships

2009-07-13T21:35:00.000-07:00

Are you in a relationship where there is no romance? If so, this is no time to think about leaving; if you love the person. When there is no romance in your relationship, you must ask yourself what went wrong. For all genuine relationships to kick off there is romance involved and, it is until later in the relationship that the romance is lost. Many people who are serious do not get up and leave. There are very many people who loose the romance and, you are not the only one. Relationships and more so marriage is a long journey that will inform you that romance is hard work. It is something that you need to revitalize and do often. There are several things that you can do to bring back the love that was once felt. The first thing is to find out whether there is a problem. This is because strife and romance cannot exist together. You need to find out what you did or what your partner did to bring you to that dry status. There are very many causes of disagreements and, funny enough, one partner might not be aware of the problem.

Burying your head in the sand will not do you any good. You need to identify your problem so that you can deal with it. You will have to sit down with your partner and, in a calm manner, try to solve your problems. If there is absolutely no romance in your relationship, take all the time you need. While talking, you need to have an open mind and be ready to forgive. Having good will in a relationship is all that matters. This way, you will be willing to do anything to make things right. Honesty will be the best policy and, there is nothing more essential than this. You will get to examine your heart and give all you have in this regard. To deal with a state of no romance, it is crucial to make it a priority. This is because many people who are breaking up today, no longer have the good will to deal with problems in their marriage. Go back to the beginning of your relationship and try to recapture that love. You do not have to pretend but, you can learn to recreate it. Sometimes, people will find a love that is even greater than the one present in the beginning.

Once you have settled your problems, the issue of no romance has been halved. If you are on a similar page with your spouse, you will begin to talk. Talk is essential in romance. Not just the usual talk but, the talk that comes from the heart. When a man and a woman who love each other talk, there is a sense of magic that brings harmony to them. This is only the beginning. Give yourself to romance as well as to your spouse, nature will take its course. Make sure that you resolve your troubles once they have occurred. Pilling up problems and unresolved issues is the killer in most relationships. Nobody is perfect and losing romance is not a problem unique to you. It is the willingness to recapture love that counts. Take time to be alone with the person you love. This way, you will show the world what really matters to you. Make your spouse feel special and, you will always get back the romance.

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Guys: 2 Things You Need to Know Before You Pursue an Intimate Relationship With a Woman

2009-07-10T21:16:00.000-07:00

There may be a time where you'll come across a woman who only wants a sexual relationship. Before you rush into one with her, there are a few things you need to consider.

Here are the two things you absolutely need to know before being intimate:

1. Feelings may start to develop. This can be very disastrous to the relationship. Since the relationship is built solely on intimacy, this alone can ruin your chances for another intimate encounter. If she's intimate with you, she may have feelings for you anyway...at least sexually. If you are intimate with a woman who just want something sexual, then DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING MORE THAN THAT. If you try to express how you feel about her, or worse, push a relationship on her, she may decline.. It may also ruin your chances for any future intimate encounters.

2. She's probably in a relationship. There's probably a lack of intimacy that she's experiencing in her relationship, so she looks elsewhere. Though she's cheating, it may make sense to her to try to figure out a solution...especially if she has already expressed to her significant other the problem. What you need to do is decide if you really want to be with someone who's already involved. Take into consideration that there are many possible outcomes in this situation...like her man may become more intimate with her so therefore she may cut you off.

If you feel like you can still handle a sexual relationship, then by all means, have one. But always remember what it is...just something sexual and nothing more. Take that into serious consideration.

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How To Have A Succesful Long Distance Relationship?

2009-07-07T20:00:00.000-07:00

Long Distance relationships are a true test to a couple's commitment and personal limits. LDRs take a great amount of effort to maintain and often people involved in them, realize that they evolve into a state of emotion that they never found themselves in before. When your partner is miles away from you, it is very easy to let things go wrong and lead your long distance romance to an early death. Some people find it difficult to bridge the distance through communication, others become overly obsessed with what their partner is doing when they are not there and as a result they spiral down a road of jealousy and suspicion. They key is balance and following some basic steps to keep your relationship healthy and strong.

Communicate and visit often

It cannot be stressed enough how important communication is for every relationship, especially if it is an LDR. With the distance working to keep you and your sweetie apart, your defense is keeping all lines of communication open. It doesn't matter how you do it as long as you do it. Every long distance couple should find ways to communicate that make both partners comfortable and happy. You can talk on the phone everyday, send e-mails, faxes or text messages and whatever you do make sure you share your feelings and expectations and be true to one another. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive. (Check our Communicate Better and Travel section)

Avoid jealousy and be trusting

One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.

Be positive

Staying positive and not focusing on the negative aspects of a LDR is essential to keeping your relationship blooming and your partner content. Being away from your sweetie is not all bad news. Use the opportunity of personal time to pursue your interests and hobbies as well as your career objectives. Another positive points it that long distance dating pushes both of you to be more creative, communicate better since you don't have "face-to-face" time and test your feelings. As long as you see the long distance relationship as a temporary state, you will keep your chin up and transmit that feeling of security and happiness to your partner too.

Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about.

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How to End a Relationship Gracefully

2009-07-05T20:02:00.000-07:00

Relationships are ended every day, yet the potential for hurt and ill feelings among the rejected party is tremendous. Things come to end as a natural phase of life, yet things like relationship can be ended with finesse and grace and leave the wounded party with a sense of satisfied closure.

Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. Try to be as honest as possible in ending a relationship. Never lie about the reason for ending the relationship. This can cause hurt feelings as well as leave persons with an open wound. Honesty brings a natural end to things.

Do not cast guilt on the person on the losing end if it is not deserved. When relationships are ended because one person causes another person to feel guilty wrongfully, the person on the receiving end will normally try his or her best to make up for the guilt, thereby prolonging the process of closure. They normally try to make things better thinking that if they do right, their spouse or partner will not end the relationship.

Do not accept gifts or favours from persons whom you told or intend to break up with. This sends mix signals and will leave the person/s feeling used or taken for granted. Ill feelings normally result as a consequence of this and can lead to bitterness, strife and even violence.

Do not flaunt your new love in your old love face. This can lead to jealousy and violence.

Talk it over. It is always good to sit down with the person you are breaking up with and have a healthy, heart to heart conversation about why things must end. This shows that you respect the person enough to have dialogue with them and will usually result in platonic good natured friendships are the relationship is ended.

Do not patronize your ex. Never be the first one to offer to remain friends after the relationship is ended. This may seem callous to the person who is hurting or on the receiving end. Let them be the one to first offer to be friends after they have been impressed with the way you handled ending the relationship.

Do not involve your friend friends’ in a negative way. It is always best to leave third party out of the relationship that is being ended. Both persons in the relationship that is being ended will need the support of their friends. Things can be a bit tricky if you both share the same friends. If that is the case, do not try to get them to take sides; allow them to support you both without bias if this is possible. Do not spread bad talk or give bad messages about the person you are ending the relationship with. You both will need your established friendships and ill gossip could really hurt the process of healing.

Be gracious, kind and vocal in your compliments of the past relationship. If the relationship was a good one, let the person with whom you are ending the relationship know that it was good while it lasted. If they offer to remain good friends after the relationship is over, accept good naturedly and return an offer of friendship.

Finally, live in peace with the family. Normally when relationships are ended, the family’s of the respective parties normally take sides and this can be particularly tricky when children are involved. Try to be at peace with your ex’s family at all times if possible. If good relations can be maintained, this will be healthy for both parties and will create a safe, happy and normalized setting for children if they are involved.

The key to remember in ending relationships is that you should do unto others as you would like them to do unto you and if you live and love graciously, your good works and your ways will follow you. It pays to be gracious.

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The Secret to Making The No Contact Rule Work

2009-07-02T20:00:00.000-07:00

People wonder all the time about using NC to get their ex back. 99.99% of those people do not use the no contact rule correctly, but I know the secret...do you? Just like any technique there is a right way and a wrong way, I have found the secret and I will share it with you so you can get your ex back fast.

What The No Contact Rule Is Not About

Everyone believes that after they breakup with their ex and stop talking to them that they are using the no contact rule correctly,Wrong! This is merely ignoring them and they just think you're mad and will get it over like you always do. Using NC to get your ex back and save your relationship takes a lot more than just ignoring them, especially if they broke up with you.

You want to get them back but not the way they were when your relationship wasn't working out, make sense? After all if they come back the same way they left...what has changed? This relationship is still headed for the rocks you're just circling around them until you crash again. No, you need to set a whole “new course” for your relationship away from those rocks for good, and the no contact rule can help you do just that.

OK - So What's The Big Secret?

The secret is in the almighty No Contact Message. What message you ask? And I answer “Exactly why NC is not working for you, you did not properly initiate your no contact strategy...did you?” This is why everyone thinks that the no contact rule will not help you get your ex back, they don't use it correctly. Or, they use it so late that it takes a long time to take affect but it still can work...just takes longer.

If you have been attempting to use no contact to win back your ex boyfriend/girlfriend you need to find out more about how to write the Magic No Contact Message. I am not going to go into all that with this article. What I want you to take away from this article is the fact that if you didn't properly initiate NC with a good no contact message, you're using the no contact rule all wrong. So do not expect great results until you learn what you need to know about writing a proper NC message, and then of course send it off to your ex.

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Keeping Your Relationships Healthy

2009-07-01T20:15:00.000-07:00

Relationships are like flowers. You have to nurture them so that they get to grow and spring out healthy and vibrant blossoms. Just because you have already established ties with your friend, does not mean you can leave merely leave it at that. Like flowers, friendships could wilt and die if not properly taken cared of.

In looking after flowers, you make sure that they get enough rays of sunlight, sufficient showers of water and for some people a few short kind words can actually cause buds to open up and bloom. But how do you nurture relationships? By relationships, we do not only mean the one that you have with your spouse, or your lover but it encompasses the ones you have with your parents, your siblings, your children, your neighbor, your pets and even your work.

The secret to any relationship or perchance to any endeavor is happiness and contentment. However, it is important for one to know and to understand that your happiness is your responsibility, yours alone. A lot of relationships fail because one pins his or her happiness on the other person. One rationalizes that he is happy because of the other person or for the reason that he got the job he wanted. This line of thinking is a great stumbling block because it is not only the relations that are damaged when the relationship fails but the dependent person could very well find himself in a great deal of depression and loss of faith and confidence. It is thus fundamental that you find your own happiness first - love yourself first and strengthen your self-belief. That way you maintain your poise and self-assurance even if your relations should not go as smoothly as you would have wanted it. This would also allow you to heal and move on much easier after a break up or a loss.

Communication is the key in all relationships. Many relationships go on the brink because people are not open to their partners or to their friends. We know all too well that each one of us is unique in his or her ways. This means a different way of thinking, of acting or of responding to emotions and situations. As close as you may be to your best friend or to your lover to the extent that you can finish each others' sentences, it does not necessarily follow that he can read everything on your mind and understand all your moods without you saying something. Talk. And when you do, try to be honest at all times. Ask any friend and they will tell you that your relationship still exists because they trust that you will tell them the naked truth however unfortunate it may be. Trust is a basic ingredient in relationships and it is one of main causes why relationships last as long as they should. Breaking trust through lies will likely equate to broken relationships.

It is common that you will have a number of arguments and conflicts at some stage in your relationships. But quarrels and fights are not reasons to end your relationships. They can always be mended. Learn to forgive, make up and start over. Disputes keep relationships healthy as you get to learn something new from your partner after each one. Another thing, the experience will get you to accept and understand his or her imperfections and compromise to make the relationship stronger and deeper.

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How to Catch a Cheating Spouse and Stop Being a Doormat

2009-06-28T14:20:00.000-07:00

Once you start spotting the signs that you have a creeping, sneaking, cheating spouse on your hands, there is no way you can ever just brush that knowledge under the carpet.

Even if you're not the confrontational type, there is no way you can just forget about what you suspect and carry on as though nothing is wrong - well at least not in anyway that is healthy or good for you.

If you're like me, you want to get the proof and then confront your cheating spouse with what you have found out. However for most people, figuring out how to catch a cheating spouse isn't easy.

Truth is catching a cheating spouse is pretty straightforward with all the great guides and software that's available online these and if you have even a suspicion that your spouse is doing the dirty on you, then you owe it to yourself and your sanity to find out once and for all just what and where.

The best way is to run a reverse cell lookup on the numbers in their cell phone. You will discover the name of their lover, where they live and other personal information about your spouse's lover. And so, the question about who your spouse is cheating on you with will be answered.

You can also track what your spouse is doing online if you suspect them of cheating on you via email or certain websites. So great is the software that helps you track your spouse's activity online is that once you set it up, then it's like you're sitting right next to your spouse as they're online and they won't even know you're watching.

Another great thing about this software is that the evidence that you recover is eligible to be used in court. So that if you want to end the marriage or the relationship, then you can do so and have stand up proof of your spouse's cheating.

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Relationships Today Follow the Rules of a Sexy Game, Not Love

2009-06-27T22:02:00.000-07:00

Falling in love isn’t what it used to be. Rather than looking for mutual trusting relationships, young men and women today play a sexy game to win all the satisfaction they can and envy of all around them.

In fact, there isn’t a lot of love involved at all. Why do you think marriages so often fail? In today’s sexy game the biggest relationship faux pas is to show you are more romantically interested in another person than they are in you. That naïve mistake is what sets people up for heart ache and drives them, ironically, even deeper into the sexy game.

In the sexy game most young people play today, the goal is to get what you want and make sure everyone else sees how successful you are. The tools of the sexy game are manipulation and deception.

What men want is physical satisfaction and freedom. Women know what men want. So women get really good at using their physical assets and they know how to make men think they have freedom. Women use these tools to get what they want in the sexy game.

What women want is money and control. Men know what women want. So they position themselves to provide the steadiest supply of money and give women the illusion of control to maximize their ROI.

Men and women who are adept at the sexy game know that their partners are trying to manipulate them and know how they are trying to do it. A man’s desire for freedom is in direct opposition to a woman’s desire for control. It is very important for both sides in the sexy game to believe they are winning the manipulation war – that they are getting more value than they are giving. So men play dumb and needy and regulate the money supply. Women play up their emotions and regulate physical affection. They use these tactics to make the other think he or she is in jeopardy of losing the source of his or her satisfaction. This ongoing struggle is the basis of the sexy game.

Another important part of the sexy game is optimizing the number of partners you are manipulating without making it obvious that’s what you are doing. Failure to keep this a secret from one of your partners can often be a relationship breaker that will domino to other partners. Vagueness in the level of your relationships is important in the sexy game. Even if you are openly dating one partner, it is possible to maintain other undefined relationships in close proximity. Both men and women engage in this practice. Common euphemisms for it include “innocent flirting” and “keeping one’s options open.”

A skilled sexy game player can maintain several undefined relationships, continually making his or her undefined partners think the relationship is on the verge of moving to the next level.

Although most play in the sexy game is done within “romantic” relationships. The score of the game is determined in comparison to peers. Both men and women report their feats of sexy game play to roommates, friends, siblings, etc. and this is where their success is judged. This is the part of the sexy game where kissing and telling is appropriate.

Men and women differ in how they go about it. It is most common for a man to describe in detail his physical exploits and the thoughtlessness with which he asserts his freedom in the face of the woman’s desire for control in conversations involving three or more males. “Fish stories” and even out right lies are common here. If a man tells a story another man believes to be false, the doubter may go to great lengths to expose the lie and destroy the relationship in question all, of course, in an effort to improve his own standing in the sexy game.

Women generally find showing more effective than telling to report their sexy game exploits. Money spent on a woman is easy for her to show off to other women. Jewelry, flowers, tickets to plays are all excellent trophies. Women magnify the importance of the gifts and brandish their control in relationships by feigning confusion about what to do about men who are obviously more interested in her than she is in them. Only when desperate do women try to fake gifts, like sending flowers to themselves. If caught in this practice, it is very difficult to rebuild one’s standing in the sexy game.

I hope this article has given you a better understanding of the rules of the sexy game. You may prefer not to acknowledge you are participating in the sexy game and simply apply the principles to your relationships. That’s ok. The most important rule of the sexy game is to appear to everyone else to be completely ignorant of it.

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Finding a Relationship is Harder Than you Think

2009-06-24T20:17:00.000-07:00

Have you ever asked yourself that you were going to find someone and be in a relationship, and then you realized it was harder than you have thought?

Everyone goes through this stage and it’s kind of funny that most people plan how they are going to do it and where it’s going to take place. One thing that they forgot is WHEN they are going to do it. I remember in High School, I told myself that I would find someone and be in relationship after I graduate. Five years later, I am still single and keep telling myself ‘when’. There were a few opportunities in front of me that got to waste and now I am stuck writing my thoughts about love and relationships.

One thing I learned is never say something you might not do unless you conquer a fear. My fear was and still is rejection. Everyone gets rejected once in a while--whether is not being accepted for a particular college or not getting a student loan to pay off your classes. These situations are not the best feeling in the world, but we got to move on. Finding a relationship is harder than you think. If you think you can just walk up to someone and end up dating them, you have a 25% chance. Let me tell you why.

First, you do not know that person. Walking up to a complete stranger is creepy for them unless they are open-minded. There goes your 25% (75% remaining).

Second, if they are not freaked out by your approach, you will have to initiate a good conversation as well as carry it. First impression is always important. If they are turned off by your conversation, there goes another 25%. (50% remaining)

Third, if you pass first and second, you have a 50% chance to get their number. If you do, call them up and set up a date. However, do it the very next day. (Still 50% remaining)

Finally, the person agreed to spend a day with you. You do everything fine up until you fall into that “qualifying trap”. You know, basically answering their questions while not trying to mess up. If you don’t impress them, there goes another 25%. (25% remaining)

There you go, you have a 25% percent chance to get a second date. If the person agrees for second date, most likely they thought about giving you another chance. To increase your chances, you need to do what the situation takes you. Do not go overboard and try to impress that person with words. Remember this, actions speak louder than words. Let them see what you like to do. Be in a situation that you feel comfortable in. You will reel them into your comfort level.

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Getting Your Exgirlfriend Back - The Worst Mistakes You Can Make!

2009-06-23T21:32:00.000-07:00

Fixing a break up requires patience and strategy. To successfully get back together with an ex, it's not only what you do - it's what you DON'T do that matters. Making critical mistakes during the break up can cause your ex to see you completely differently than she once did (and not in a good way). Below you'll find the most common blunders guys make just after a girlfriend dumps them:

Crying Over the Relationship - Weakness is always bad, especially when you're trying to get your ex to want you again. Women always like men who are strong and confident... not men who are weak, begging, or groveling for their relationship back. No girl wants to get back together with a sobbing, crying mess of an ex-boyfriend. Vulnerability might be cute in a girl, but never in a guy. Therefore, you can never show your ex just how much the break up is upsetting you. Seeing you like this will only justify the end of the relationship in her mind.

Promising Change - Hopefully you'd never ask someone to change for you, so no one should be asking you either. Promising to your ex that you'll change your ways is always a big mistake. Even if she were to take you back based on that promise, you could never fulfill it. On top of that, you'd be changing into something other than what she wants. Chances are your ex fell in love with you for who you are. Try to think back to the beginning of your relationship, and if anything, change your behaviors back to the person you were then. But trying to fit into the mold of what your ex "wants" in a boyfriend will never work. Even by attempting to do this, you're letting her walk all over you.

Excessively Contacting Your Ex - After she breaks up with you, there's actually no reason to be contacting her at all. Not until you've stepped back, dropped out of sight, and given your ex a chance to miss you. Try to remember that nothing you can say or do - not through email, text-message, on the phone, (or even Twitter!) will ever convince your ex that she should take you back. In fact, your ex won't date you until she emotionally misses and wants you again. You can accomplish this by adhering to the old adage: "absence makes the heart grow fonder". Not by bombarding her with phone calls, emails, or by contacting your exgirlfriend twenty times a day.

Making Demands or Giving Ultimatums - Trying to control your ex while you're dating is a really bad move. Trying to do it after she breaks up with you? Even worse. Not only are you in no position to be making any requests from her, but once your deadline comes and goes you're going to look very stupid. You cannot follow through on any threats or demands you make of an ex that ended your relationship. If you want to win back your girlfriend, you'll keep your cool.

Rebounding To Make Her Jealous - After the hurt of being dumped wears off, many guys try to numb the pain by jumping back into an old girlfriend's bed. This might work for a night or two, but once you realize you still love your exgirlfriend it's usually too late. You've just done something that, if it gets back to your ex, will cause irreparable damage to any new relationship the two of you might build together. When you get back with your ex girlfriend she's always going to remember and resent you for what you did, and it's something you can never undo. Trying to make your ex jealous by hooking up with another girl is a bad idea also. Just don't do it.

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Is Your Husband Not in Love Anymore? How to Recapture His Heart

2009-06-21T20:02:00.000-07:00

Being married is an adventure unto itself. Some days you have no question that you did the right thing choosing that man to be your husband. Other days you start to wonder if the path you took was really the best for you. Marriages change over time and if you start feeling as though you are living with a husband not in love anymore, it's very distressing. There are things you can do to help your husband fall back in love with you again.

One of the reasons for a husband not in love anymore has to do with stress. Stress is unfortunately, a part of everyone's life. How we deal with that stress is the determining factor in whether it affects our lives in a negative way or not. If you and your husband have been dealing with an ongoing stressful situation it can start to undermine the foundation of your relationship. If you have been on opposing sides of any issue, now is the time to smooth things over. Compromise is a crucial part of any fulfilling relationship so you need to be willing to see his side of the issue and try and understand his position. Overcoming even the smallest of conflicts can really help strengthen the bond between a husband and his wife.

Think back to when you and your husband first fell in love. Many women change dramatically after marriage which can contribute to the issue of a husband not in love anymore. Physical appearance may play a small part, but the inner changes seem to be what matter the most. If you were a carefree, fun loving young woman who has become frustrated and angry with life, this will most definitely impact your relationship with your husband. Try to become the woman your spouse initially fell in love with. Remember that if he loved you deeply once, he can again.

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The Simple Truth About Falling And Living In Love

2009-06-20T21:24:00.000-07:00

We are meant to live a life of love. When we're not in love, something's the matter. Unfortunately, most of us, unaware of this, become resigned to disappointment, loss and upset in relationships. No matter how successful we are in other aspects of our lives, many do not feel entitled to the same success in love. This is considered natural as one "grows up" and gives up the fantasies, foolishness and dreams of childhood. But nothing could be further from the truth. It is the fantasies, foolishness, and confused expectations we develop as we grow older that keep the love away.

Being in love is the most mature and realistic thing you can do. It energizes your life, fills you with positivity, creates generosity and makes every moment beautiful. The body heals, the heart is happy. As a great teacher once said, "We never ask the meaning of life when we are in love."

If being in love is our natural state the real question is, what is it that keeps this most precious inheritance away? How can we reclaim it and return to the intrinsic trust and joy we had as children?

Many fear they will be hurt. But contrary to popular opinion, real love never hurts or wounds. It is only our confused expectations that can undermine our lives. There is a Buddhist saying "Give up poisonous food wherever it is offered to you." But most of us do not know what is poison and what is nourishing in our relationships.

Once we know the difference between real and counterfeit love, once we learn the laws of love and how to practice them, we will be able to live a life of love and build relationships that cannot fail. The fact of the matter is that we can begin to do this and turn our lives around at any time.

To begin this process, let us look a little deeper. It always seems as if relationships are difficult-difficult to find, to keep and to enjoy. Yet the fundamental truth is that there is no inherent problem with relationships at all. There is never a scarcity of relationships, there is never a scarcity of love.

Some complain that they can't love because there is something wrong with the person they are with. No one can please or satisfy them. In the beginning they may feel as though they've found the perfect person, but before they know it, conflict develops, irritation grows. The joy of feeling loved and valued, fades away. Most people have no idea why.

Ultimately, from the psychological point of view, not falling in love, is not so unusual. In fact, many can do very well, become quite healthy, and yet never get over their disappointments in love.Spiritually speaking, there's a different point of view. Is a person's very life at stake if they aren't able to truly love? The answer is Yes. Without the ability to know real love, the precious taste of this life is thwarted, and a person may be doomed to living her days as a "Hungry Ghost."

But we can change this at any moment. To begin we suspend judgment and disbelief, become willing to become a child once again - explore, play, hug, cry and feel that the world is filled with endless possibilities. We also must develop the ability to say No to all of the people, beliefs, habits and desires which can take our faith and love away. We need to be willing to allow ourselves to look for and find that which is beautiful and worthwhile in everyone, (including ourselves). And, somehow, let them know.

Falling in love doesn't mean being blind, or entering into fantasy. It means waking up out of darkened dreams to finally see the beauty which surrounds us. A little endurance is required, along with the willingness to face the shadows that will dispel as soon as we invite in the light. During this holiday season, let's give it a try. It only takes a moment to do so, but the happiness lasts a long, long time.

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To Be Loved Is To Love

2009-06-19T20:11:00.000-07:00

Ernie Larson, author of "Stage II Recovery" and other works, uses a wonderful metaphor for relationships. If you picture yourself as a telephone pole, he says, and the other person as a telephone pole, you can see your relationship as the line strung between you. You can't hold up both ends by yourself.

I tell you that, because I want to tell you this: There's a lot of wonderful relationship advice to be found in spiritual writings and teachings. But if you try to use it on another person, hoping against hope that s/he will pick up the other end of the telephone line, it won't work.

If you are trying to relate to someone who hits you, cheats on you, ignores you until they want sex, or otherwise uses you in any way, then you are not in a relationship with that person. This relationship advice article does not apply to the two of you. What you have is a trauma bond, and I trust you to seek professional help, if that's what it takes, to extricate yourself.

For those connections with others that can honestly be called relationships, I have gathered some powerful relationship advice in my years of study and practice in conscious spiritual living.

The first thing to know is that there is unlimited love for you in this universe. You'll receive it as soon as you're willing to, and as soon as you quit dictating where you think it should come from and how it should be delivered. Be present to your life, and you'll see love showing up in the most unexpected places.

The second principle of relationship advice is that a relationship cannot be a closed system of two. If it is, it won't be a relationship for long. There needs to be space in any relationship for other friends, family, as well as room for Spirit to work in you and your loved one. Your primary relationship must be with your own concept of Spirit. All other relationships will fall into place.

The last thing I want to offer you will improve your communication skills. It's a copy of the Peace Prayer of St. Francis. No one really knows who wrote it, but this centuries old poem is packed with relationship advice.

Make me an instrument of Thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is discord, harmony;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine!
Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born into eternal life.

Practice the principles of this prayer in all of your relationships, and you'll find that your life full of the kind of relationships you really want.

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Getting Back With An Ex - Getting Over The Break Up

2009-06-18T21:11:00.000-07:00

Separating with your girlfriend or boyfriend can be a very painful experience. Like a lot of women and men who have just experience a separation, you are probably not sure what you can do next.

Well, this is very understandable. Ultimately, a breakup can be a huge blow to many guys and gals. One day, you can be happily chatting to your honey. Tomorrow, your boyfriend or girlfriend decided to breakup with you.

People who have been through a breakup will without a doubt understand this experience. In the article that follows, you will learn a few tips that will hopefully help you in getting an ex back. Read on to discover more!

Getting back with an ex can be an "Elephant Task" and it is definitely not something that you can do overnight. If you have just broken up with your ex, you are probably feeling quite emotional now and probably a bit depressed. This is completely understandable.

However, if you want to get your ex back, you cannot and should not stay depressed. Being and staying depress is not going to help you get your ex back and will instead push your ex further away.

Therefore, you will want to get over the break up as soon as possible. You want to heal yourself emotionally. This will give you a clearer mind to think about what you really want from your relationship and puts you in a better position to handle your relationship problems.

Here are a few ways that you can use to make yourself feel better.

1) Crying

Crying can be a very healthy way to let go of any pent up emotional tension. And don't worry. You do not have to cry in front of any people in order for crying to be effective. You can always do it when no one else is looking. For example, in your own room.

2) Getting A Good Workout

Exercising is a very good way to improve your emotional state. And it also keeps you fit and healthy. Talk about killing 2 birds with 1 stone. Try it. You can feel so much better. Any sports will do. For example, tennis is a good one. Strike the ball hard. Vent your frustration. Of course, be careful. You do not want to end up injuring yourself or your friends. If you do not like tennis, jogging can also be a good choice.

Getting back together with an ex is usually not an easy mission. And when you feel emotionally exhausted, it can be very easy for you to make mistakes that will drive your ex further away.

However, if you really believe that this relationship is worth salvaging, then do not give up so easily. Although getting an lover back is not child's play, it is not impossible either.

You might dread committing mistakes. Well, some common mistakes can be avoided easily once you know them. By the way, I hope you have gained something helpful in the article that will assist you in getting your ex lover back.

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Put The Love Back Into Your Relationship Through Radical Thinking

2009-06-17T20:42:00.000-07:00

So you're in a relationship that you've been in for a while; it's become mundane, you no longer yearn for each others' smile or touch; in fact, everything your partner does has the ability to irritate you…but you don't want to join the ranks of the dissatisfied singles either. You don't want to have affairs. What can you do to rewind time, to "get back that loving feeling"? Because, if you're not willing to jump ship you may as well make the most of the boat you are in, and get back to a feeling of relaxed, happy, enjoyment with your partner. You are all too aware that it's better for them, you and the kids.

When something isn't working and you want it to work (no matter what that something is) a scientist would set aside all previous assumptions and start afresh. Every successful scientist knows that this is the way to go. All of the many great discoveries have been made as a result of a willingness to NOT to right. In order to rediscover each other, and to rediscover mutual respect and happiness, you have to first question what might happen if everything you thought was wrong might in fact be right?

This radical approach is exactly what is needed; unless you are willing to be wrong, you will not be able to make a new discovery. I don't just mean a willingness to see things from your partner's perspective; that isn't enough. That simply implies "I see my side and I see yours aswell". It doesn't reach deeper to your core beliefs about what is right and what is wrong. To create real and lasting change one must inspect the foundations beneath the surface, not just the structure which is visible above the surface.

Think of it in terms of pursuing a scientific goal. Let's take the discovery that the world is in fact round and not flat. If you as a scientist were not willing to be wrong and to turn things upside down, you could not then go on to discover that the earth orbits the sun, and so on. A willingness to revolve 180 degrees in the way in which you think is what opens the door to new experiences and new feelings. If you keep thinking the way you've always thought, you'll keep feeling the way you've been feeling. A radical change in your thinking is the only way in which to create a radical change in how you feel within your relationship.

This willingness to be radical in your thinking is what paves the pathway to a feeling of enlightenment. Then you will have created an environment which is conducive to the letting go of negative patterns of behavior and allowing the onset of the loving relationship which you deserve, and crave.

No matter how your relationship has been in the past, by choosing to think radically you can change and deliberately create the most wonderful fulfilling relationship. You can learn to relax your thoughts and calm your mind and feel a sense of inner peace and wellbeing. In this state new possibilities will present themselves to you and you will be able to imagine yourself and your partner as you want to be, feeling a deep sense of joy and bliss in your day to day life.

Once you have allowed yourself to question whether what you thought was wrong was indeed right, you may also find benefit in the use of self-hypnosis to further stimulate and re-generate love into your relationship. Hypnosis is normal and natural and allows access to your inner mind and so can be used very effectively to both release redundant feelings and also to stimulate new and exciting emotions.

You might find the idea of using hypnosis downloads or a hypnosis cd as radical aswell...!!

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Dealing With the Break Up of a Relationship

2009-06-16T19:09:00.000-07:00

In my role as a psychologist/therapist I have met many women who were feeling miserable due to a failed relationship. In some instances their feelings verged on desperation as they told me they could not see a way for things to get better.

In these situations I always ask this question " if your sister or good friend were in the position you find yourself in now, how would you treat her?"

Invariably I get the same answer with slight variations. It goes like this. "I would encourage her to eat properly and get enough sleep. I would try to make her laugh and take her out of herself. I would buy her little gifts and treats to show her that she is special and loved"

My response is to say, "that's wonderful' thank you - Your answer has just told me what you need to be doing for yourself. As women we are nurturers' we care for others and yet often the last people we nurture are ourselves. Caring for ourselves isn't selfish it's practical. Caring for ourselves means that we have more to give to and share with others.

Its time to start being your own big sister and taking care of yourself. In a moment I'll explain a good way to start. First I would like us to look briefly at your thought process as you might be having thoughts that would stand in the way of your success.

You may be thinking to yourself I would like to bring more pleasure into my life but I don't have the time or money. The great news is it doesn't have to take a great deal of either. Some pleasures cost nothing, like taking a walk in the park on a sunny day - or a lie in - or curling up on the sofa with a favourite magazine or novel?

Most of the things we enjoy cost little and don't take up a great deal of time. The important thing is of course to take action on bringing more pleasure into your life not just think about it.

There is an exercise I do when working with groups which is along these lines. I ask each person to make a list of the things and situations that bring them pleasure and to say how often they indulge in them.

Participants are almost always surprised about how simple and inexpensive it would be to bring these pleasures into their lives or enjoy them more frequently. We all need and deserve pleasure so it's important to start bringing more of it into your life now.

Spend the next few days taking care of your needs and I promise you will start to feel better whatever your situation. But don't stop there. Let caring for yourself become a beneficial way of life beneficial for you and all those that you interact with.

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